Abstract: The article analyzes the diaries in the form of a letter to a mentor, presents the results of a survey of the authors of the diaries, reflecting their subjective assessment of the influence of the diary on their mental state. The spread of such diary forms as a diary in the form of a letter to a mentor reflects a communicative turn in science, psychology, art, mass consciousness, when the focus shifts from I to You. The postmodern aesthetics of modern diary forms is revealed. It is shown that writing letters to mentors is not a classical ritual Sufi psychotechnics. At the same time, Sufism is a communicative model and all Sufi rituals are rituals of communication. Therefore, writing letters is a written expression of such classical Sufi techniques as istighasa, istiana (asking for help), tawassul (search for means of approaching God), rabita (imagining meeting and being near a mentor).
Sufi returns to the ultimate truth about himself: about his boundaries, about his vulnerability and weakness, about the need for You, about the impossibility of living without a dialogue with You. Through embedding himself in a hierarchical relationship with a mentor, the Sufi comes to the ultimate dependence on God. Dependence on God is not chemical or behavioral, it is getting rid of psychic defenses and illusions about the strength of one’s control, influence and power and stating one’s slavish position with God, when the only thing that controls the heart of a Sufi is choice-to-you.

Abstract: The article examines the concept of addiction and the features of an addictive personality through the prism of the attachment-based development approach of Gordon Neufeld. Neurophysiological features of the formation of the "addictive brain" are shown. The phenomenon of healthy mature attachment as a space of addiction therapy is investigated. The necessity of focusing on the choice and responsibility of an addictive personality is substantiated. The concept of a "separation complex" in the understanding of Gordon Neufeld is analyzed. The relationship between addiction and trauma, addiction and love is analyzed. The thesis about the interchangeability of addictions is revealed. The concept of post-traumatic growth of an addictive personality is investigated, provided that the responsibility for satisfying hunger and eliminating deficits in relation to oneself and others is realized. The article for the first time analyzes the formation of addiction within the framework of the attachment-based development approach of Gordon Neufeld. The directions for reinterpretation of trauma from the point of view of its contribution to the growth of personality are proposed. The emphasis is placed on the choice, freedom, responsibility of an addictive personality for the realization of his own potential